tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post1728463360294533681..comments2023-10-23T12:09:50.512-04:00Comments on Clergy Confidential: A Date with GriefTim Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13913584491460599491noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-56521226143502846472014-02-20T07:01:56.000-05:002014-02-20T07:01:56.000-05:00So well written, thank you. I lost my father on N...So well written, thank you. <br> I lost my father on November 14, 1989, to a drunk driver. Dad, at 86, had just finished a day in the office and was on his way to deer camp when he was hit head on. In addition to the grief, I had serious anger issues and was always tempted to do something spiteful to the other driver on the anniversary of my father's death (opening day of deer season; big deal here in Michigan). <br>This past year I read a newspaper article on this man's son, now a biochemical engineer, and how he'd developed a sub-dermal medication delivery system for patients with the same disease he has and what a boon it was to not have several daily shots to administer the drug. Then I thought of how he must have felt at ten years old to learn that his father was driving drunk and had killed another man. Is it easier for a ten year old to deal with a tragedy that might send his father to prison or for a "mature" man to cope with his father's untimely death? The anger began to go and the grief began to heal. So much goes on inside that feeds our emotions and creates an infection that will not heal.<br>Thank you again.<br> -Ren Flagg<br> Jackson, MIRen Flaggnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-6777247198488053832014-02-20T03:26:26.000-05:002014-02-20T03:26:26.000-05:00Thank you.Thank you.Scott Lenoirnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-41364660460748126392014-02-28T14:53:37.000-05:002014-02-28T14:53:37.000-05:00Searching Google for "grief" I came acro...Searching Google for "grief" I came across this post. Thank you. Although I do not share your religion -your words as they speak of the ache in losing your father ring true, and spoke right to me. Am grateful that you have so eloquently put into words what is in my heart.L Gallaghernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-15303287562913259572014-02-22T04:40:00.000-05:002014-02-22T04:40:00.000-05:00Your father does know your wife and children and t...Your father does know your wife and children and that (shudder!) ferret about whom (what?) I've read nothing lately. I'm sure he also knows that you're a quirky, yet truly God-sent priest and best of all, the initiator of LentMadness. He is smiling and tapping his baton to prepare his heavenly band to play his latest composition in your honor. You'll hear it in your heart,aleathia (dolores)nicholsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-27527056905098546862014-02-27T09:38:14.000-05:002014-02-27T09:38:14.000-05:00Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. Satur...Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. Saturday will mark the 6th anniversary of my husband's death from a ruthless form of cancer. He was just 54. I think of him everyday and wish that he'd had the chance to meet our three delightful grandchildren. When March 1st comes around every year, I have always felt ashamed of being so emotional, as he isn't here the other 364 days of the year. Why should the date of his death sting so much? Thank you for helping me to understand and accept that it ok to admit to my grief and to share the day with others.Purr Whalleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-3947167711521225142014-02-19T12:47:49.000-05:002014-02-19T12:47:49.000-05:00Extraordinary post on many many levels. Hadn't...Extraordinary post on many many levels. Hadn't known your father was so young when it died and although I knew about the conducting, didn't realize his connection with Barber's work. Thank you for sharing this part of your heart and soul.Meredith Gouldnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-54851687753218494662014-02-19T12:48:06.000-05:002014-02-19T12:48:06.000-05:00Tim, thank you so much for your essay today. I...Tim, thank you so much for your essay today. I'm not one to nonchalantly say, "I know how you feel." I don't say that unless I really do. Today I'm saying that to you because the feelings you describe, especially the unexpected surprise emotions, are exactly where I am nearly a year after my father's death. <br><br>What a beautiful obituary. You are right to be proud of it and of your father's legacy. My dad's obit was impressive in its description of his remarkable churchmanship, but you might be interested to read instead my oldest son's blog posted a few weeks after the funeral. Here's the link: http://dadblogkc.blogspot.com/ The dadblog is what Robert started when he found himself traumatized be his daughter's beginning kindergarten, and it's mostly about his children. But this post was devoted to being a grandson, not a father. <br><br>I am thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers. <br><br>Ann Elizabeth BishopAE Bishopnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-42717160886996104692014-02-19T13:17:33.000-05:002014-02-19T13:17:33.000-05:00What a beautiful post. And I love how your dad got...What a beautiful post. And I love how your dad got Samuel Barber out of the doghouse. Bravo.Penny Nashhttp://penelopepiscopal.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-85157537457441522792014-02-19T14:07:36.000-05:002014-02-19T14:07:36.000-05:00Tim -- EXCELLENT article - re A Date With Grief! T...Tim -- <br><br>EXCELLENT article - re A Date With Grief! Thanks. Yes, I clicked on the obituary of your dad . . . what a wonderful person. Your sons are lucky, too, that you have no doubt become a father much like your own. <br><br>Hi to Brenna . . . <br><br>Pat Conley <br><br>From: The Rev. Patricia A Conley www.LobsterChurch.org and www.patriciaconley.com 815-355-6840 cell 815-338-0950 churchConley, Patricianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-16956110207085152072014-02-19T15:52:37.000-05:002014-02-19T15:52:37.000-05:00Lovely, Tim. Thank you for sharing this.Lovely, Tim. Thank you for sharing this.Laura Darlinghttp://Teabagsinfusion.bligspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-56676965200977025962014-02-19T16:26:48.000-05:002014-02-19T16:26:48.000-05:00Thank you for sharing such a tender and honest pos...Thank you for sharing such a tender and honest post. I am moved to tears by the generosity of your words, your relationship with your father, and the truth of grief's unpredictability.Mariahttp://gravatar.com/mariaalexandrianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-49495385450683500992014-02-19T17:07:19.000-05:002014-02-19T17:07:19.000-05:00Thank you for graciously and generously sharing a ...Thank you for graciously and generously sharing a piece of your family's history. May memories of your father always be a sweet blessing.JanetheWriterhttp://www.janethewriter.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381472662149763328.post-6013752143762804722014-02-20T14:32:14.000-05:002014-02-20T14:32:14.000-05:00Your Dad sounds like a wonderful guy - and that...Your Dad sounds like a wonderful guy - and that's a great photo. (Looks like your Dad is looking up at the telltales there! I learned to sail not too long ago have loved every minute.)<br><br>Thanks for this beautiful post....Barbaranoreply@blogger.com